In order to understand how to convert a Feng Shui skeptic, it is a good idea to create a definition for them. A Feng Shui skeptic is someone who approaches life from a very analytical perspective. They come from the school of “I need to see it before I believe it”. If life events improve as a result of making changes that are related to Feng Shui, they will usually call it a coincidence rather than proof that it works. If by some chance they do endeavor to practice Feng Shui, it will be on one gigantic condition . . . that they be provided with statistics, guarantees and a specific timeline as to how it will help and by what deadline they can expect these benefits. One may wonder why anyone who is such a skeptic would even participate in a curiosity of this thing called Feng Shui, and I can say from experience that it tends to be because someone they love, be it a spouse, lover or friend, wants them to understand, participate, or at least not undermine, their use of it.
Now that we have a basic definition, let’s get down to the nitty gritty and see what it takes to convert them, and if that is even necessary. One reason that it can be difficult for people with analytical minds to grasp the subtitles of Feng Shui is because it is a system of things that are seen AND unseen. The very words Feng and Shui translate to mean Wind and Water. We can see water. We can also feel it. It is something tangible, and real. However, wind is intangible. It is something that has to be felt more than seen. We can see the destruction of too much wind, as in the case of hurricanes and tornadoes, but we can’t actually SEE wind. We can’t taste wind, or call it a certain color. It slips right through your fingers if you try to catch it. At best, the Feng Shui aspect of wind can only be guided or directed.
The qualities of Feng Shui that appeal to a skeptic involve the aspects of it that can be seen. Here is a physical action that you can take. They don’t really even need to know that the action has the potential to effect the non-physical energy pattern of something. As long as we remember that everything is energy vibrating at different speeds, this scientific connection to Feng Shui makes sense to them. Converting a skeptic for good is only possible if it doesn’t bump up against any of their other beliefs. Fortunately, if the scientific connection doesn’t work, there is always the common sense approach.
Converting a Skeptic in 5 Easy Steps
1. Go for the common sense approach ~ “Hey Honey, I’d like to take the closet door off the hinges in the bathroom because it keeps banging into the other door and it is pissing me off!” ~ Now the logical person will tell you to just close the closet door after you use it so that it doesn’t bang into the other door, but logic and real life don’t always match.
2. Common sense approach part 2 ~ “I’m going all gangsta tonight and choosing a chair at the restaurant so that I can see my enemies before they try to off me.” ~ In Feng Shui we call this being in command position, but they don’t need to know that. Be ‘like a boss’. Put your back against the wall and there will be no unexpected surprises!
3. Common sense approach part 3~ “Red sheets on the bed make me horny.” ~ Enough said.
4. When you are talking to them about Feng Shui, don’t use the words Feng Shui. Instead, appeal to their understanding, or lack thereof, of physics. “Everything is energy so why not shift or guide the energy in this room to make it feel better?”
5. And finally, don’t try to convert them. They may have some very strong beliefs and life experiences that prevent them from being able to see Feng Shui as a tool that assists life. They may think that you are replacing your faith in a Higher Power for a faith in Feng Shui. By being in your life, your Feng Shui skeptic is most likely creating a balance in you that helps to anchor all that unseen, Chinesey stuff with a sense of grounding that you need. Perhaps you are helping them to open up to some esoteric ideas and concepts that their Soul is seeking as well.
The ultimate goal of life is to live it to the fullest. Feng Shui is a tool that helps empower us with knowledge and action, trust and faith. If you are traveling down a road that has led you to investigate the concepts of Feng Shui, it is likely that a part of your Higher Self and your own Higher Power is gently pushing you in that direction. Everything in life happens for a reason. When you trust that you are always being guided to discover the tools that are for your highest good, there is nothing to fear.